Couples Work

Relational therapy for the living space between you

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Who is this for?

  • You want to build a relationship that’s big enough to hold both of you

  • You feel stuck in repeating conflicts or painful cycles

  • You are experiencing distance, loss of trust, or emotional disconnection

  • You are navigating a major transition (identity, gender, faith, parenting, illness, or life stage)

  • You want support having conversations that feel too charged to manage alone

 Couples do not need to be in crisis to begin therapy. Many come when something important feels strained and worth tending to with care.

The Relational Container

In couples therapy, we attend to the relationship as a living space that holds both partners and what unfolds between them. Together, we create a container where intensity can be present without overwhelming the work.

  • A structure that can hold the heat without melting or shutting down

  • Support for staying present with difference rather than avoiding or overpowering it

  • Attention to the relationship as its own living system, not just two individuals

  • A balance between safety and challenge so real change can emerge

What happens in Couples Therapy?

In couples therapy, the relationship itself becomes the primary focus. Sessions are shaped to support both partners while also holding the partnership as a dynamic, evolving system.

  • Exploring repeating patterns and moments of disconnection

  • Supporting emotional regulation and differentiation under stress

  • Working with power, responsibility, and mutual influence

  • Creating space for repair, honesty, and renewed connection

Meet Sophie Murphy

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Arlington Heights, Illinois, with over 20 years of experience working with couples and relational systems.

My approach to couples therapy has been deeply informed by the work of Dr. David Schnarch and Dr. John Gottman.  I have completed advanced training through the C.G. Jung Institute of Chicago and the Gottman Institute, and have spent decades learning how to create therapeutic containers that can hold each partner as well as the living relationship that exists between them.

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